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Identity-Based vs Target-Based goals

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Hey trans voice explorers! 🧭

Yesterday was Motivation Monday and I released a TikTok with one of my absolute favourite tips for achieving your goal. This of course refers to your voice goals, but this tip is a good one for any goal that you're trying to reach.

This tip is all about shifting from a target-based mindset to an identity-based mindset.

What do I mean by that?

When we think about goals, we're usually focused on the finish line, ie. the target. That's great and can be very motivating, but simply focusing on the target doesn't necessarily help us to create the habits necessary to achieve that target.

We should instead be focusing on the process we need to get to our target. In the case of a trans voice practice, that means our focus should be on a regular and sustainable practice.

Rather than aiming to have a certain type of voice, aim to be the kind of person who practices regularly.

The nice thing about this shift is that if your goal is to practice every day, that's something that is completely objective and within your control. You will know whether or not you have achieved that goal and will be able to reward yourself accordingly.

However, if your goal is to have, for example, "a more feminine voice", how will you know when you've achieved that? How will you be able to track your progress? This goal is so subjective as to be meaningless.

As a general rule, goals should be SMART:

  • Specific
  • Measurable
  • Attainable
  • Relevant (or realistic)
  • and Time-based

Having "a more feminine voice" may be relevant, realistic, and attainable, but it's not specific, measurable, or time-based. Whereas, "practicing every day for 5-minutes a day" hits all the marks.

I hope this helps!

Renée ✨

 

Hi, I'm Renée! (they/them)

I'm a queer, nonbinary, and disabled singer, songwriter and gender-affirming voice teacher. 

I've been a voice teacher for over twelve years, I have four full-length albums out, and I have degrees in physics, jazz, and songwriting.

I love creating, I love figuring things out, but most of all, I love helping people.

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